Are you obligated to confess every single sin you've committed in your past to your fiancé before getting married? If the sin has nothing to with your relationship, do you have to confess it to him? Where do you draw the line? This has been troubling me for some time now and I would really appreciate it if you can shed some light on this matter for me. -- Linda

I appreciate your willingness to be open and let nothing come between you and your husband-to-be. It sounds like you have received some direct and strong advice. Yet I honestly think this is up to you. Advice is advice, not the word of God. Confessing every past sin to your fiancé sounds like a strange doctrine to me!

My answer: "It depends"... on you... on him... on the seriousness or triviality of the sin (were you a bank robber? did you oversleep two times in 1996?)...

Let's not make a rule where the Bible has none.

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